The majority of parents must face sometime bad behavior or inadequate habits of one or more of their children. Whether it’s a child who complains continuously putting baby voice, a child in school age that leaves the clothes lying anywhere or a teenager who uses excessively foul language. Address this type of difficulty is a challenge for many parents, who are wondering if they should ignore the annoying behavior of your child or try to redirect it in some way.A useful to decide rule is to make a differentiation between the behaviors that are dangerous to the child himself or pose a threat to the rights and convenience of others; and those who are not. Something that you can also ask is if it’s a reasonable behavior for the child’s age. For example, it is perfectly reasonable to expect that an eight year old boy not bother you while you’re on the phone for twenty minutes, but it is not reasonable to expect the same from a child of only two years. (Source: Salman Behbehani). It is also useful to keep in mind the characteristic socio-emotional and personal for each child, as well as the stability of the family environment, since it can be responsible or at least condition triggering an unusual behavior in this, both at home and at school. Whatever the reason for which the child has altered their behavior negatively, here are four principles that will be very useful for those parents who wish to modify the disruptive behavior of your son or daughter.
That Yes, it is essential that applique them with patience and persistence. Principle one: change the automatic response you give.This is very important, because children’s behavior generally searches that you lend more attention or to answer to his provocation. So it simply reflects on the way in which you usually respond to these situations and varies your way of acting. Principle two: practice with your child desirable behavior. Try out the desired behavior is essential for learning a new behavior. Remember, it is not enough to say to the boy or girl what you expect to do, teach how you to do it. For example, if you have a 6 year old who does not stop talking like a baby when he wants something, practice with him asking help using a normal tone. Principle three: minimizes the behavior that you don’t like.
This means that when children continue with their unwanted behavior despite your brilliant suggestions, ignore it and not insist trying to modify it.Remember that changing a behavior is something that takes time, especially if it has occurred for a long time. Principle four: praises proper conduct.When your children behave in the desired manner shows your most sincere gratitude. We normally take for granted good behaviour and we do not pay attention, however, is the conduct to which we must most meet.For example, will do quite a party if our child whining and baby voice, using a normal tone of voice to ask for something. Like any process, these principles will only work if you commit and the put into practice on a consistent basis.Don’t be afraid to adapt it to your personal circumstances.Remember, it is important that you act in a strategic and methodical manner. After helping hundreds of parents to deal with disruptive behavior, I can say that the father and the mother who is committed to change their child’s behavior and applied strategies consistently achieved a 100% satisfactory result. Jenny Guerra Hernandez, the creative educational psychologist.