Today we talk about codependency aa. For those who do not know what it means there is a definition of the many that run Internet: Codependency can be defined as a disease whose main characteristic is the lack of identity. The codependent loses connection with the feelings, needs and wants. If it is sweet and nice but not feel it, it is because he accepted. He believes his value as a person depends on the opinions of others. It gives more importance to others than himself. .
Invests an enormous amount of energy to maintain an image or status to impress because his self-esteem is very low, depending on the value that others give. Codependency as I understand the obsessive need to be with someone to feel good. This problem is very common among couples. There are also co-dependency in Addictions: smoking or drinking alcohol to feel good. Codependence of children, etc. This type of syndrome is very harmful to ourselves because we canceled as people, that is, we forget ourselves.
We are always outstanding problems of another person which ultimately is detrimental to the relationship. Each partner takes a role: one is El Salvador and on the other hand the victim. It is a form of slavery for both parties. It is a form of addiction. yComo out of this dynamic? First we must realize one thing: we are all grown up to know what is right and wrong. No one sucks his thumb. In a codependent relationship the victim has assumed his role and let him act as it pleases without thinking of the damage that may result. The victim knows that their savior will always be there not to drop it. Liberate from this bondage! Give the victim the opportunity to take charge of their lives and address their problems. Do not assume your responsibilities. If you’re sinking deeper. Let it sink until it bottoms out and is she who comes from the well. It is a difficult path to go where there will be many relapses. But do not forget one thing: People change when they themselves decide to change. You put the means but do not assume the direction the car is not yours. To end a saying that reflects the direction we take, “Lord, grant me the strength to change the things I can change, peace for which I can accept and the wisdom to distinguish the difference.